Yoni (pronounced YO-NEE) is a Sanskrit word for the vagina that is loosely translated as “Sacred Space”
or “Sacred Temple.” Its meaning and use is an alternate perspective from the Western view of the female
genitals (i.e., Pussy, Cunt, Twat, etc., words which may or may not be complimentary depending on the
intent of their usage). In Tantra, the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect. This is especially
helpful for men to learn.
The purpose of the Yoni Massage is to create a space for the woman (the receiver) to relax, and enter a
state of high arousal and experience much pleasure from her Yoni. Her partner (the giver) experiences the
joy of being of service and witnessing a special moment. The Yoni Massage can also be used as a form of
safer sex (when latex gloves are used) and is an excellent activity to build trust and intimacy. Some
massage and sex therapists use it to assist women to break through sexual blocks or trauma.
The goal of the Yoni massage is not orgasm. Orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome side effect. The
goal is simply to pleasure and massage the Yoni/vagina. From this perspective both receiver and giver
can relax, and not have to worry about achieving something. When orgasm does occur it is usually more
expanded, more intense and more satisfying. Orgasm is allowed to happen or not happen.
It is also helpful for the giver to not expect anything in return. Just allow the receiver to enjoy the massage
and to relax into herself afterwards. Of course, other sexual activity may follow but it should be entirely the
receiver’s choice. This perspective will build greater intimacy and trust, and will greatly expand your sexual horizons.